What to Do When Your Boss Is Your Workplace Bully

It’s confronting to admit, but sometimes the person making your work life miserable is the one who’s supposed to lead and support you: your boss. When the person in power uses their position to intimidate, belittle, or undermine you, it’s more than just bad management - it can be workplace bullying. Here’s what to do if your boss is the bully.

1. Recognise the Behaviour for What It Is

Bullying from a boss can be subtle or overt. It may look like:

• Public humiliation or constant criticism

• Unreasonable deadlines or workloads

• Ignoring, excluding, or isolating you

• Withholding resources or information you need to do your job

• Threats to your job security or unfair disciplinary action

• Micromanaging in a way that feels demeaning

Naming it helps you take it seriously. This isn’t just a tough boss, it’s a toxic power dynamic.

2. Keep a Detailed Record

Documenting the behaviour is key. Keep a log with dates, times, what was said or done, who witnessed it, and how it impacted your ability to do your job. Save emails, messages, or any written communication that shows a pattern of intimidation or unfair treatment.

This documentation can become essential if you need to escalate the issue later.

3. Know Your Rights

In Australia, workplace bullying is defined by Safe Work Australia as repeated, unreasonable behaviour that poses a risk to health and safety. This can include verbal abuse, manipulation, or setting someone up to fail.

If you feel unsafe or unfairly treated, you may have grounds to lodge a complaint under Fair Work or WorkSafe protections.

4. Speak to Someone You Trust at Work

This could be a colleague, a HR representative, or a union delegate. Sometimes, getting another perspective helps clarify if what you’re experiencing is part of a broader problem.

If HR exists in your company, bring your documentation and calmly outline your concerns. Be aware that HR’s role is often to protect the business. So, be strategic, factual, and professional.

5. Prioritise Your Wellbeing

Working under a bullying boss takes a toll. You may experience anxiety, loss of confidence, or burnout. Take time to check in with your mental health. Use employee assistance programs (EAPs) if they’re available. Speak to your GP, psychologist, or counsellor if needed.

You don’t have to tolerate abuse to keep your job. Your health matters more.

6. Consider Your Next Step

If the behaviour continues and your workplace does not take it seriously, you have options:

• Escalate the issue: This might include a formal complaint, or contacting external bodies like Fair Work Commission or SafeWork Australia.

• Seek legal advice: Especially if your mental health is impacted or you’re being unfairly disciplined or terminated.

• Plan your exit: If the culture won’t change, your best choice may be to leave for a healthier work environment.

You’re not weak for walking away. You’re protecting your long-term wellbeing and career.

No one deserves to feel unsafe, undermined, or powerless at work, especially not at the hands of their boss. You’re allowed to stand up for yourself. By documenting, seeking support, and knowing your rights, you can take back your power and move forward with clarity and strength.